It is sometimes challenging to ask a girl out. We usually think: “What if she refuses to accept my proposal?” There is no need for you to doubt yourself, as you aren’t the only person facing this challenge, which most men must confront.

You meet a beautiful girl on your way home, and your brain freezes. You fail to say ‘Hi’: the words won’t come out. After the girl has gone, you start regretting not saying anything. 

Being shy is not a disability. You need to know how to make your approach. Using the best approach can help you get a girl with a few words.

I once met an awesome girl who was seated by herself on a bench in a park. I thought of what I was going to say. Of course, I was still a shy young boy trying to learn how to ask out girls. When I approached her, I said ‘Hi,’ then sat on the bench. 

I didn’t know where to start because the girl was prettier than I thought. Her beauty took away all the words I wanted to tell her. I stayed stranded, staring at her beauty. However, after some time, I built a bit of confidence and uttered a few inconsequential words. She could not accept my offer.

She would not take me because of the few dumb words I used in that two-minute conversation. Girls are always ready for us, but they need to be told a few pretty words. They need to be persuaded, and your first impression always tells her who you are.

Girls lose interest in someone after a few conversations without you asking her out. They always think that you are not a serious person. They need you to ask them out for coffee, to dance, to the movies, etc.

Most girls usually expect to be asked out by the men they meet, but we sometimes fail them. For that reason, this article aims to save you from the troubles we go through to get a girl. Some men out there have more than one girl, while others have zero girls.

Therefore, you should put the few tips you will get here into action while they are still fresh in your mind. 

Five practical and underrated ways of asking a girl out

I have prepared a list of five tips to help you take a girl out sooner than you know! Armed with these tips, you will have the confidence to strike.

Make an excellent first impression and keep it 

A girl becomes attracted to you once you make a good impression on her. The first impression gives you the confidence to talk to her because she will be showing some interest.

There is nothing more unpleasant than talking to a girl who is not interested in you. A girl who won’t even laugh at the funniest joke you have for her.

The looks you put on are crucial to every girl, I can promise you that. Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you have to be handsome. You just need to don an appearance that will boost your confidence.

You need to shower, trim your hair to your desired style, and smell good all the time. Essential grooming is the first simple step toward success.

Failure to make an excellent first impression will mean that your first approach to that girl might end up being the last. Thus, make sure to look in the mirror before stepping out of your room. 

However, this first impression does not mean flashing expensive things. You cannot steal from somebody to impress the girl you would like to take out. Do not borrow someone’s commodities so that you look attractive. What will happen when the person you borrow from refuses to give you their commodities again?

Have clear intentions

Girls are always impressed with men who are straightforward and do not beat around the bush. If you want to ask her out on a date, ask it with a few polite words. You should not use harsh words that can intimidate her.

Also, do not use language that will confound her as to your intentions. Some men like to use parables, which is wrong. She might fail to understand your parable, or she might understand it the wrong way.

By the way, approaching her was the first step you took. You needn’t be shy when in the second stage of your journey. You shouldn’t back down when making good progress.

Your choice of words will determine if you will be accepted or rejected. The best thing is to clarify to her that you want a date and not anything else.

Ensure that you have a connection beforehand

A girl will always say ‘Yes’ when she already knows you. This means that she already trusts you, which will make it harder for her to reject you. If you notice a girl in a hotel, then the first step is to approach her. 

Make her feel that you are friendly and show her that you are a good man. Make her laugh and get to know a few details about her.

Nevertheless, you shouldn’t steal the show and talk at length about yourself. It should not be about you, but about her, so that she can feel appreciated. Make her laugh and while she is enjoying your company, ask her for her number.

If she gives you her phone number, then know that you are headed in the right direction. After leaving, be a man and text her first so that she knows you are serious.

Give her more details about yourself and spend ample time getting to know her. This process of knowing each other increases your chances of getting a ‘Yes.’ 

She will not refuse your offer because she already knows you. You will not need a paragraph to ask her out. It will be much simpler.

Therefore, this is a critical part and it takes a while to get through this section. It is the real determinant of how things will go.

Make her laugh and be playful

You should not be a boring and serious man all the time. Research shows that when two strangers meet, the more a man tries to be funny, and a woman laughs, the more likely she will be interested in a date.

This does not mean that you have to tell funny stories, but also you can do something funny. You need to keep the vibe relaxed so that she will feel comfortable being with a stranger.

Do not tell jokes that cannot make you laugh. You need to laugh to show that you are enjoying her company, and you need to open up to her. Make sure you can laugh at yourself as well. 

However, not all jokes are worth being said to a stranger. You must filter the jokes you are delivering so that you do not give her the wrong impression. Also, tell her stories and jokes that can be easily understood.

The most important thing is lightening the mood for her. If you are not usually pleasant, fake it until you make it. Wear a smile throughout the conversation.

Another crucial gesture that you need to make is maintaining eye contact. Peering directly into her eyes shows the level of confidence that you have. It also tells her that the things you are saying are true.

If you ask a girl out while facing away from her, there is a high chance that she will refuse. Girls need a confident person. Therefore, even if you are not confident, fake it for the entire period.

Ask at the right time and place

You might have a good appearance, good connections, and funny jokes and yet still get a big ‘NO.’ This is because the time and place you are asked her out in was wrong.

It is uncouth to ask a girl out in front of other people. You might end up embarrassing her, and the answer you will get is much evident.

Not all places are worth asking her out in. You cannot interrupt her while she is on the phone and expect to get a positive reaction. 

Everything you do needs to be well planned and timed. If you find her in a park alone, then grab that seat without wasting time. She will hear you out and get to know you more.

I always advise men not to lose any reasonable opportunity that they get. You don’t know if you will ever get an equal chance in the future. If you fail to do it when you have a chance, another man out there will grab it, and you will be left out.

With these tips you can now have your dream girl. Do not hesitate to approach her and create a good relationship before moving onto anything else.